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| Posted by: benny |
04/06/2008 16:36 |
Bridget Jones, in my opinion, had it a lot easier in her 20's, just wait till you get in your 40's, boy is it an eye opener. I thought, silly really, that men were more sensible and caring as they got older, Ha, that'll teach me for being so niave. I joined a dating site, well about 10 really a girls got to cover the bases, and to be honest i've had a lot of intrest, however, i've come to the conclusion, that when men discover that I've been on my own for 8 yrs, i must be sexually frustrated and they're more than willing to help resolve this affliction. I must be some sad old bird whos frustrated and in need of sex, or so they think. Its true men think with their trousers.
The conversation starts of well enough,eg, how are you? are you single? all inocent enough then pow, do i wear stockings? when was the last time i had sex? What happened here? Now dont get me wrong i can flirt along with the best of them, but i'm a little more subtle and a little healthy flirtation is good for the soul, and confidence.
I must admit i have to laugh sometimes, I'm absolutly gobsmacked at some of the comments, and just thank the good lord my son is not in the room. He knows i flirt and go out, but i think even at 24 he'd be shocked at some of the things these men say to his mum.
I'm not giving up, everyone says that my prince out there for me somewhere, I 'm just fed up of kissing all the frogs |
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Re: are all men born liars, or do they have lessons |
By martinp on
04/06/2008 22:48 |
You are in a much better position to judge a majority attitude in men than I am, but I would please ask that you don't judge every man by the examples you have seen/met that don't come up to your expectation.
I met my wife 4 years ago through an on-line dating site (Matchmaker), but was about to can it as a potential source of friends and contacts as I had met women who really were not as their profile indicated. Maybe we all have our rose colured glasses on when reading these profiles.
I would recommend a technique of email contact, then telephone contact, then finally a first time meet up for lunch, definitely not evening dinner, at a neutral location, and always tell someone where you are going. This cycle may take around 2-3 weeks, but in that time you will quickly recognise men who really are looking for a long term partner, or those who just say they are, but are really only looking for a bit on the side.
I hope you find the man of your dreams, he is out the somewhere.
Martin.
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By xaj1 on
08/06/2008 16:48 |
My god, I could have been writing that myself - go girl - sorry to say, yep, they're mainly after one thing - what a waste of time hey! Do they not know that there's more to life!
Jackie |
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Re: are all men born liars, or do they have lessons |
By Timeless on
13/06/2008 15:00 |
| I am not single but was interested to read your blog Benny. After all, we may all be single again one day and I was quite shocked that older men are so disrespectful. I am constantly shocked by my daughters' attitudes to sex - which is a world away from how I was brought up. Perhaps all guys - even older ones - now expect women to be what we used to call permissive. I don't think I would know how to deal with this but I am clearly very naive. I am sure you have some funny stories to tell so please keep writing your blog. Timeless. |
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Re: are all men born liars, or do they have lessons |
By freddo on
13/06/2008 16:06 |
Hi,benny,
Its not just men.
I joined a few dating sites and found quite a few women, who were supposed to be single, and who as it turned out ,were not even seperated, it kind of knocks you for six, if as I have, any morals and decent values at all.
I may be in the minority here, but there are still some good men out here
Dont give up on finding a"GENTLEMAN", as this rare creature is not yet extinct.
Best wishes and regards.
Freddo. |
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Re: are all men born liars, or do they have lessons |
By ladyVimes on
21/06/2008 18:55 |
Hi benny, seems that finding a gent is like looking for hens teeth, all I seem to get are guy's after a "Mrs Robinson" n I aint Ann Bankroft or some idiot after nss or even worse a grandad after an escort while babysitting!!, mehtinks they all have lesson's after the age of 15 on 'how to decieve females!!! but hey I live in hope
Sheena |
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Re: are all men born liars, or do they have lessons |
By d6j7 on
06/07/2008 09:12 |
| Hi Benny I just joined a dating site, similar to you, I've had years on my own, but busy doing things. I hit the menopause (don't want to embarrass you chaps online but..) at 45 and it somewhat knocked my confidence in the get up close and personal side of things. With that in mind, I hope to find a friend first that could develop into something more. At least the etiquette on the dating sites allows men (or women) to state if they are only looking for an extra marital relationship. Is it me or are men of a certain age either looking to prove their prowess or ready to put on their slippers in front of the fire??? I haven't given up yet :) |
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Re: are all men born liars, or do they have lessons |
By gyarnall on
04/09/2008 16:54 |
From all your observations, I obviously missed the session at school that covered 'relationships'! But then no-one told me about a hill that I would be over at some point in my life, either.
The result is that, as one of the frogs 'of a certain age'referred to earlier, I tend to take the view that a woman smiling at me has indigestion or is looking over my shoulder at that other bloke....
So if anyone is running a course for ill-informed 'mature' frogs with no clue as to how to read the signs, and who aren't compulsive liars... I'm in!
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